Shallow Understanding

Shallow understanding from people of good will is more frustrating than absolute misunderstanding from people of ill will. -- MLK

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opening eyes: highvoodoopussypope: annehedonia: just fuck it. why do i even follow...

highvoodoopussypope:

annehedonia:

just fuck it.

why do i even follow half these blogs.

i’m sorry, but 95% of people look at me, and assume i am black.

black people might look at me as fake black, but the only people who have seen me and assumed i come from an interracial couple…

I’m disappointed in Tumblr…I see so many posts from wonderful people calling others out on their bullshit and demanding respect for their lived experiences and some of these same people are denying those rights to this individual. It’s hard to question without questioning, to understand that someone’s experiences may completely different than your own and to accept that you may be a part of the problem, but that shouldn’t stop us from working toward a solution. Don’t we ask that of allies? Shouldn’t we always believe before we disrespect? If you doubt their experiences let them educate you, maybe you can educate each other in the process. 

Someone’s experiences aren’t a debate, experiences can be explored and reevaluated but they are never right and wrong, actions can be, but not experiences. So why attack? Why pounce and alienate someone you can learn and grow with>

And maybe if you feel threatened enough to lash out at a stranger about their experiences? Maybe that discomfort is a sign that it’s time for some reevaluation of your own.

Come on, Tumblr =/

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I’m just saying: If you’re sagging your pants low enough to give me a front row seat to the curve of your behind, you can’t be all “no homo” and “pause” and bent out of shape when I notice.

Son of Baldwin (via sonofbaldwin)

This argument sounds powerful, but when used in a different context I think it’s problematic. For example: I’m just saying, if you’re wearing your shirt low enough to give me a front row seat to the curve of your cleavage, you can’t be all “no thank” and “pause” and bent out of shape when I notice. That mindset is behind street harassment and leads to many other forms of harassment/assault/abuse. It’s powerful to challenge rigid heteronormativity, but it can be dangerous if it gives people the notion that their agency can ever trump somebody else’s. I believe no one, not even homophobic someones, should have to limit their choice of clothing or comfort because of other people’s actions. Just food for thought!!

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pityplease:

My Top Ten Hair Oils:

Some  of you new naturals are still getting to know which oils do what and when, so I just wanted to make a quick list of my favorites! This applies to people who perm too!

Most Penetrative: Coconut Oil
Coconut Oil is the only oil with the  ability to completely penetrate your hair shaft, which means it as a moisturizer and protective oil it works best without water. Many naturals use this oil in a pre-poo to combat hygral fatigue. Coconut oil is amazing when it comes to preserving the natural proteins within your strands.
Most Protective: Grapeseed Oil
Are you a curly/kinky gal or guy who loves to straightening your hair? Grapeseed Oil is definitely for you! With it’s high smoke point of 450F, Grapeseed Oil can protect your strands from most blow-dryers, flat-irons, and hotcombs. Be careful: A little goes a long way!
Most Beneficial Essential: Tea Tree Oil
Tea Tree Oil is a heaven’s blessing— anti-bacterial, anti-inflammatory, and great for circulation! Many natural shampoos will contain a good amount of this little oil because of its extreme cleansing properties. If you get build up on the scalp, this oil will fix it in a jiff!
Most Bang For Your Buck: Canola Oil
I know what you’re going to say— cooking oil? Yes, hon COOKING OIL is good for your hair! If you’re up for the challenge, using canola oil as a hotoil treatment can drastically reduce frizz, breakage and tapering! Canola oil contains protein so it will help rebuild your strands bit by bit!
Most Stimulating: Peppermint Oil
If you like to “feel” product at work, just add a little bit of Peppermint Essential Oil and you’re good to go. Peppermint has all the benefits of Tea Tree with the added cooling sensation you get with gum! Add to your shampoo or just rub a little on your scalp to increase circulation and growth.
Most Hair Growth: Jamaican Black Castor Oil / Castor Oil
Nuff’ said. Veterans and newbies alike SWEAR by this oil. I might be biased but I achieve a good .75-1 inch a month in length thanks to this oil. Not to mention it softens your strands without adding buildup to the scalp or your ends. Detangling has never been easier for me! 
Most Balancing: Jojoba Oil
Jojoba Oil mimics hair sebum in a way other oils are unable to do. For those that don’t know sebum is what gives our hair its coating, shin, luster and… well everything! If you’re a kinky or curly girl you may notice our hair isn’t quick to get oily as compared to our straight haired counterparts. This is because sebum often gets trapped above our hair’s various twists and turns. Depending on who you are your ends may be left dry and crunchy due to this lack of lubrication. If you’re wary of oily residue try jojoba oil! It gives all the moisture benefits of the above oils whilst maintain a dry and natural feel. It’s got wonderful softening qualities too!
Most Pleasant Smelling: Vanilla Oil
This essential oil doesn’t do much in the way of skin and hair but it smells WONDERFUL. And what person doesn’t want to smell wonderful? Slip a little into your conditioner or styler and you’ve got a delicious hair treat that will last the whole day.
Most Exotic: Tamanu Oil
For almost twenty dollars for an ounce you’d think this oil cured cancer. Well, it doesn’t do that but check out its unique beneficial and curative properties.
Most Widely Known: Extra Virgin Olive Oil
We’ve all probably used this oil to cook once. No surprise it’s also good for your hair. It’s got all the benefits of Canola Oil, all the protective qualities of Grapeseed Oil and some of the penetrative qualities of Coconut Oil. Olive Oil also increases the tensile strength of hair by three times. This oil will protect your hair from damage while giving thickness and shine. Above all it’s pretty cheap for a lot of it.
So that’s my list. Feel free to send me your own :)
Have fun and Good luck!

pityplease:

My Top Ten Hair Oils:

Some  of you new naturals are still getting to know which oils do what and when, so I just wanted to make a quick list of my favorites! This applies to people who perm too!

Most Penetrative: Coconut Oil

Coconut Oil is the only oil with the  ability to completely penetrate your hair shaft, which means it as a moisturizer and protective oil it works best without water. Many naturals use this oil in a pre-poo to combat hygral fatigue. Coconut oil is amazing when it comes to preserving the natural proteins within your strands.

Most Protective: Grapeseed Oil

Are you a curly/kinky gal or guy who loves to straightening your hair? Grapeseed Oil is definitely for you! With it’s high smoke point of 450F, Grapeseed Oil can protect your strands from most blow-dryers, flat-irons, and hotcombs. Be careful: A little goes a long way!

Most Beneficial Essential: Tea Tree Oil

Tea Tree Oil is a heaven’s blessing— anti-bacterial, anti-inflammatory, and great for circulation! Many natural shampoos will contain a good amount of this little oil because of its extreme cleansing properties. If you get build up on the scalp, this oil will fix it in a jiff!

Most Bang For Your Buck: Canola Oil

I know what you’re going to say— cooking oil? Yes, hon COOKING OIL is good for your hair! If you’re up for the challenge, using canola oil as a hotoil treatment can drastically reduce frizz, breakage and tapering! Canola oil contains protein so it will help rebuild your strands bit by bit!

Most Stimulating: Peppermint Oil

If you like to “feel” product at work, just add a little bit of Peppermint Essential Oil and you’re good to go. Peppermint has all the benefits of Tea Tree with the added cooling sensation you get with gum! Add to your shampoo or just rub a little on your scalp to increase circulation and growth.

Most Hair Growth: Jamaican Black Castor Oil / Castor Oil

Nuff’ said. Veterans and newbies alike SWEAR by this oil. I might be biased but I achieve a good .75-1 inch a month in length thanks to this oil. Not to mention it softens your strands without adding buildup to the scalp or your ends. Detangling has never been easier for me! 

Most Balancing: Jojoba Oil

Jojoba Oil mimics hair sebum in a way other oils are unable to do. For those that don’t know sebum is what gives our hair its coating, shin, luster and… well everything! If you’re a kinky or curly girl you may notice our hair isn’t quick to get oily as compared to our straight haired counterparts. This is because sebum often gets trapped above our hair’s various twists and turns. Depending on who you are your ends may be left dry and crunchy due to this lack of lubrication. If you’re wary of oily residue try jojoba oil! It gives all the moisture benefits of the above oils whilst maintain a dry and natural feel. It’s got wonderful softening qualities too!

Most Pleasant Smelling: Vanilla Oil

This essential oil doesn’t do much in the way of skin and hair but it smells WONDERFUL. And what person doesn’t want to smell wonderful? Slip a little into your conditioner or styler and you’ve got a delicious hair treat that will last the whole day.

Most Exotic: Tamanu Oil

For almost twenty dollars for an ounce you’d think this oil cured cancer. Well, it doesn’t do that but check out its unique beneficial and curative properties.

Most Widely Known: Extra Virgin Olive Oil

We’ve all probably used this oil to cook once. No surprise it’s also good for your hair. It’s got all the benefits of Canola Oil, all the protective qualities of Grapeseed Oil and some of the penetrative qualities of Coconut Oil. Olive Oil also increases the tensile strength of hair by three times. This oil will protect your hair from damage while giving thickness and shine. Above all it’s pretty cheap for a lot of it.

So that’s my list. Feel free to send me your own :)

Have fun and Good luck!

(via thinkspeakstress)

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MISSING from Detroit, Michigan, USA: Dalair Person, Jr.
http://www.blackcelebritygiving.com/2012/07/missing-dalair-person-jr-age-16-detroit-mi-last-seen-july-1st-2012/
Case Type: Endangered DOB: Jan 01, 1996 Missing Date: Jul 01, 2012 Age Now: 16 Missing City: Detroit Missing State: MI Gender: Male Race: Black Complexion: Dark Height: 5-9 Weight: 140 Hair Color: Black Hair Length: Short Eye Color: Brown Wear Glasses or Contacts: NoLocation Last Seen: 18800 block of Burgess on Detroit’s west side. That’s in the area of Seven Mile and Lahser.Circumstances of Disappearance: Unknown. Person is in good physical and mental condition.Last Seen Wearing: He was last seen wearing a red jogging suit with white stripes.Identifying Marks or Characteristics: Unknown.Have information about Dalair? Click here to submit information to the Black and Missing Tip Line!

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numol:

MISSING from Detroit, Michigan, USA: Dalair Person, Jr.

http://www.blackcelebritygiving.com/2012/07/missing-dalair-person-jr-age-16-detroit-mi-last-seen-july-1st-2012/

Case Type: Endangered
DOB: Jan 01, 1996
Missing Date: Jul 01, 2012
Age Now: 16
Missing City: Detroit
Missing State: MI
Gender: Male
Race: Black
Complexion: Dark
Height: 5-9
Weight: 140
Hair Color: Black
Hair Length: Short
Eye Color: Brown
Wear Glasses or Contacts: No

Location Last Seen: 18800 block of Burgess on Detroit’s west side. That’s in the area of Seven Mile and Lahser.

Circumstances of Disappearance: Unknown. Person is in good physical and mental condition.

Last Seen Wearing: He was last seen wearing a red jogging suit with white stripes.

Identifying Marks or Characteristics: Unknown.

Have information about Dalair? Click here to submit information to the Black and Missing Tip Line!

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queerfabulousmermaid asked: Did you re-add your post on the Save the Pearls page this morning? Because I thought I saw a post with a girl saying "You deleted this but here it is again" And now I can't find that post so I think it may have been deleted again. This bitch needs to take a seat.

That was me! They deleted my first and second post, I posted it a third time and then screen capped it so there will be proof because I’m sure that’s gone now too. After a week or so of negative opinions there should be enough criticism that anyone who does read the book will be well educated as to why it’s so problematic and hurtful.

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Pearls Don’t Need Saving

Perhaps Victoria Foyt sees and an end to racism by eliminating race. Perhaps that’s what Eden’s father is working on in his mad science experiment.

Because she sure eliminated my race this morning, in fact, she eliminated my voice. For a woman who wants to fight racism in America, she ruined this woman of color’s morning and reminded me that even if I shout, it will only sound like a whimper.

I posted a heartfelt, personal message to Ms Foyt’s page, along with other women of color, and sometime last night she deleted them. She silenced our voices so only hers would be heard. She’s ‘fighting’ racism, by oppressing people of color. 

Last night  I wondered if I was too harsh. If she truly was trying to make MY world a better place and not just her own. I wondered if her intentions were good though her actions misguided.

Now I know I can never be harsh enough. She is not interested in hearing the voices of the people she’s pretending to be, and that’s why her actions are problematic and hurtful, that’s why the black face she’s doing is racist, not innovative. She’s using black face the way  it’s been used for hundreds of years: to tell the story of who she thinks people of color are without letting them have a say, she’s using our bodies for her benefit, using our stories to best suit her needs and she’ll silence and warp reality to do so.

I may have been silenced this morning, but I know she can’t hold back the criticism for long. I only spoke out because I saw the number of positive book reviews she had and I don’t want young adults to read this novel without hearing/seeing opposing reviews. Pearls don’t need saving, people are not fuel and semi-precious gems, they aren’t resources, and as a person who experiences oppression, I’m not asking to be ‘saved’ I’m asking to be heard.

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